Why I Stopped Waiting for Closure and Gave It to Myself

 For the longest time, I thought closure came from other people. From apologies I never got. From explanations I deserved but never received. I kept replaying the betrayal, the heartbreak, the confusion, thinking if they just told me why, I could finally move on.

But the truth is, waiting for closure from someone who hurt you is like standing in the rain waiting for the sun to come out – you’re just going to get cold, wet, and tired.

One day, I realized I was done giving my peace away to people who didn’t care about it. I was done waiting for words that would never come or, if they did, would never heal me the way I thought they would.

So I gave closure to myself.

I told myself the truth they wouldn’t:

They left because they couldn’t love me the way I needed.

They betrayed me because their wounds were louder than their loyalty.

They hurt me because hurting people hurt people.

And none of that was my fault.

I realized closure isn’t about getting answers. It’s about accepting you don’t need them to be free.

So here’s what giving myself closure looked like:

I forgave them silently – not for them, but so I wouldn’t carry their mistakes in my body anymore.

I stopped replaying the conversations in my mind, because the outcome would always be the same. 

I wrote down everything I wish I could say to them, then burned it as a symbol of release.

I reminded myself that moving on is the best closure there is.

I chose to stop waiting for someone else to set me free. I unlocked the door myself. And the peace that came after was worth every tear it took to get there.

Closure isn’t a conversation, it’s a decision. And the day you decide to give it to yourself is the day you stop waiting and start living again.

🌹✨ Stay unchained, stay powerful, and keep choosing you.